Hi, Ladies. Are you liberal? Conservative? Somewhere in between? Far beyond either of those? Apolitical?
Come, gather round, and prepare to be outraged.
Vor handed me his iPad last night with a slight wince, with an article pulled up for me to read. After handing over the article, he fled. This is a bad sign, folks.
Here be the horror: New York City is at it again. I know some people are opposed to Andrew Sullivan, but you should read this as well (he does a nice round up of the responses.
Outraged? Peeved? Pissed? Disbelief? You have got to be fucking kidding me, right?
Throwing out the formula swag, whatever. I don't care. I don't need a pen that says Similac on it. But documenting a medical reason for every bit of formula that goes into a baby's mouth?
What exactly is a medical reason? Is it because you're on a drug that would pass into the breast milk, or maybe you had cancer and had to have your breasts removed. Well, that seems medical, right? What about tongue-tie? A serve under bite, so that my baby's lower lip at birth was literally inside her mouth? A latch and suck so powerful that layers of my skin are ripped off, and I bleed everywhere? A breast milk allergy? What if my milk doesn't come in for two whole weeks? You want me to keep trying, and listen to my poor baby scream in hunger? What if I never ever experience a let down when my milk finally does come in? What if I never make enough milk? What if I'm going back to work right away? What if my baby refuses to latch, and just sits there and screams? What about us sexual assault survivors, who barely made it through birth with our sanity in tact? What if breastfeed is a trigger for memories for that past assault?
Why is the government, without finding me unfit, trying to parent my child for me, and dictate my choices for her? "With every bottle a mother requests and receives, she'll get a talking to." Yes, world, and you patronizing liberal leaning (MALE) politicians who pushed for this. I know breast is best. It is. I think people understand that. Am I unfit because, because Lis gets formula? No. Has there been any finding that I am unfit? No. I've never been investigated by CPS (given my job, wouldn't that be a laugh a minute? "Hey, Caseworker X, how the heck are you?!?"). I've never hit my child, I've never neglected her, I've never even had a moment's thought about anything that would bring her harm (lucky me, no PPD). I seek all necessary medical attention for her, I love her to pieces, I barely let her cry. Yet... somehow, you think I'm unfit to make a decision as to what to feed her? Wrong. I don't need a talking to. I know what I'm doing. I'm parenting my child the way I want to, in a way that is perfectly safe and healthy for her.
This is why every woman, every person, of every political persuasion or political aversion should never NEVER EVER NEVER trust the government. When I say that, I specifically mean, electing your party, the party you think is int he right, and then handing them a blank check of power to legislate morals, decision, lives, finances. Because, you know what? Neither major political party can be trusted. If you're conservative, you KNOW the government can't be trusted to keep spending in check, keep marriage between a man and a woman, or keep unborn babies alive. If you're liberal, you now KNOW that the government can't be trusted to... well, to trust you. To do what liberals think is most important in their social, private lives: stay the hell out. Tolerate me, and my decisions.
Confused as to my politics? Good. It doesn't matter. This is just something everyone, especially every woman, ESPECIALLY every woman who has ever had a child, and either formula fed, breast fed, or did some combination of both, should be absolutely incensed about.
Obviously, I am. Nanny state, indeed.
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